A – Z of Happiness from the ramblings of a happy man – D

D – Decisions

It is a sad thing to say that many people make decisions without much thought of the real long-term ramifications on their OWN life.

I’m not saying I always make the correct decisions, but at least I put all decisions through a filter before I act, so that I at least minimise the risks linked with a bad decision being made in haste. Or to put it another way, I still make many appalling decisions, but they no longer create a major problem in my life.

So what is the filter process, (I pretend to hear you asking) here’s a starter, you can add as many as you wish to the list to create a great thought process for delivering better decisions continually into your life.

  1. How will this affect my wife? Will she happy with the results of me making this decision, and do I need to consult with her first before I decide?
  2. How will this decision affect my health?
  3. How will this decision affect my time commitments?
  4. Will this decision make me happier, or just better off, is the trade-off, worth it?
  5. Any effect on friends, family, work colleagues or other important people in my life?

You can add many more you feel relevant, like costs, debt, who you are associating with, and the effects on you of being associated with you.

Much of this is down to a personal view on your life. My life is based upon relationships, money comes a distant second, but I understand its value better than most who squander it on many things they barely want, yet alone need.

Example :-

I’ve just decided to help out LinkedIn again after being specifically asked by one of their staff. It means committing time regularly to assist others in getting their issues resolved on the LinkedIn Help Forum, I’m doing it for free, but doing it in the past has meant I met a load of friends that I still treasure.

So I hope that by reading this you formalize your decision-making process a little bit, and that it brings you the happiness that I’ve been the recipient of, for decades..

 

Happiness A – Z from the mind ramblings of a happy man

A – Acceptance

Life is a wonderful gift, that is not always fully appreciated by those of us who are lucky enough to reside in a civilised country. Life still throws us challenges, but it is quite usual to allow these challenges to stop or reduce our feelings of happiness.

Acceptance of your life as it is, without the craving for more, less or change is the bedrock of the permanent state of happiness.

I’m saying that the more we can accept ot our present life as normal, the easier it is to feel happy. I understand that accepting problems, difficulties and stress in our lives is not simple, it is a task that requires mastery through daily efforts in the way we think about our lives. Hopefully, the B – Z will help you through mastering this process.

Enough for today, I’ll post B a little later this week.

Good luck, here’s to your future increased happiness.

How to create the ideal work life balance – post 3 – time management

There are several things to consider in time management. This is a food for thought blog to help you to learn how to manage your time better to live a more rewarding and more simple life.

1. Self indulgence awareness

2. Discipline

3. Priorities

4. Short term vs long term

5. Systems

6. Learning to become happy with being lazy

7. Delegation and control

8. Automation

9. 3 filing trays

10. Saying no, not now, never, and reviews.

So starting with number 1. The first thing we must realize is that we often indulge ourselves with time wasting

and that is allowed, unless there are things we need to do or should be doing.

Games whilst on calls

I play this whilst talking on Skype – no loss of time – but I feel my life is more fun.

So the lesson here is to be aware of time passing through us. Everyone needs slack in their day, we cannot always be doing something we should be doing. The big lesson is to feel and find that balance between fun, family, finance, future, and fitness. (the five f’s)

As you feel that balance between the five f’s … start to be disciplined. Decide to become the best disciple of your future actions.

Number 2. Discipline :- Start by using lists, more in https://simonhamer.wordpress.com/2013/11/07/how-to-create-the-ideal-work-life-balance-post-1-keeping-lists/ 

and start to decide to keep records of what you need to do, now, later or not at all. Skip to 9. The 3 filing trays for more information.

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On to Number 3.  Priorities

What are your priorities?

I fully accept they differ from person to person and you must acknowledge that these change with your age, race, gender, religion, politics and ability.

At age 15, I only had one priority.  Aged 21, I finally learned another.

At age 26, I changed my priorities completely. (just smiled at this priority created nearly 30 years ago)

My point? Acknowledge that your priorities change and learn to manage your time to allow for the changes in your life, and those in your life may decide some of your most demanding priorities.

Number 4. Short term vs long term

As you manage your life remember that your life will change and that you should concentrate on all the times in your life, now, soon to come and the long term future. If you never plan forward for the long term, it may be too late to sort it out when the long term becomes the present. So one thing to throw in here, is learn how to take on help to quickly make hard decisions with advice from great mentors and advisers. Schedule meetings into your time management with professionals for things like wills, financial reviews, health checks, estate planning, school fees, university visits, and often over looked in these debt ridden times full car services.

Number 5. Systems

Lists obviously.

Some thoughts for your systems … not for me to lecture you here … but here are some thoughts to consider from a person who in my life, who had these things totally mastered.

Dad used to record all manner of things, but regularly he would review these, and decide which needed further time.

Notes in diaries, folders for projects, thoughts on scraps of paper filed within drawers and labelled.

In his last few years Dad’s meticulous records meant that everything was easy to find, easy to trace, it took Dad so much time to do it, but Dad’s priority was by then to make it so easy for the family to sort out his affairs when his time came to leave this earth. Make your decisions based upon your life.

Number 6. Learning to be happy with being lazy

Get ready, if you create real balance in your time management, you could find that your life need no longer be frenzied, over run, or pressured. http://files.sharenator.com/634081777606341745_Lazy_Definition_of_laziness-s800x600-57671-580.jpg

There is a tendency to look for things to do or just crash back into old time absorbing habits when life becomes simpler.

Here’s an example of time management from our household that saves hours.

We all have some  of these (“your men”) as we call them, these are the washing machine, the slow cooker, tumble dryer, and some are lucky enough to have a dish washer. The trick here is to set these going before you do other tasks. They will be doing your jobs for you whilst you do something else you feel you need to do. Next trick, take a hard look at your appliances, can you make them do more with less time. A lot of time people are stuck in time wasting habits, because they rush to get everything done, but with a few quick reviews they can save hours. Our dishwasher does the pots on quick in 30 minutes, as opposed to 140 minutes on Eco setting.
Even if you have to do some of the pots twice you are saving time overall.

Number 7. Delegation and control

If you are intending to be a successful executive, how much time could you save by delegating tasks to others, that you can effectively control by checking their actions later. On to another list, to check on later when the action should be completed. I’m sure can think of loads of these, great examples are appointment keeping, bookkeeping, collation of facts, documents, research, deletion of emails that you have no need to see, forwarding emails to others to deal with that are below your pay grade.

Number 8. Automation

Receipts, invoicing, direct debits, list of responses to the same issue .. click button response.

Many things can be automated, and just require adding to a list to be reviewed later to ensure they are completed.

Number 9. The 3 Filing Trays

As paper, or tasks arrive, they fall into three categories …

1. Do it now, or delegate immediately. List them, then decide which needs your time first. Try to delegate everything you can immediately, they can then be “your men” working on the tasks you have decided do not need to done by you, but someone does need to do them.

2. Projects and may be needed later (label up and file) Put on lists for later action.

3. Not needed, just bin it.

Number 10. No, not now, never and reviews

Learn to say no, not now, or never to things that are going to clutter your life with excessive absorption of your time, that do not come on to your list of priorities.

Put on your list to review your systems, actions and most importantly your priorities.

 

Good luck

 

See you soon

 

Simon Hamer

How to create the ideal Work Life Balance – post 1 – Keeping Lists

Lists are one of your greatest assets and most loyal friends in making your life and work simple.

Question – Why is it my most loyal friend?

Answer – once you add an important action to the list, it will always be by your side reminding you decided that you wanted or needed to do.

Tell me a friend that always does that … without annoying you.

Why is it my greatest asset ?

Always using a list that you use as your primary reference point, will ensure that you never forget to do anything that you wish to do or should do. Imagine never missing a bill, a train, a meeting or a voluntary engagement ever again. Vision – keeping your life so organized that  you sleep better every night or continue to sleep well.

I run several businesses with various different people.

My key list – Here’s one to try.

Financial Liabilities / here and forthcoming.

On it, I put every bill, I write every forthcoming expected liability that is not automated by direct debit or standing order.

When there’s little on it, I just pay the most important first, and I just pay one each day.

If it gets more than 10 items long, I try and pay off the five most important as soon as I can.

I do the same with personal finances too.

Great place for this list, on your mobile, diary or on your desk … all dependent upon how you live your life.

Hope it helps.

Best regards

Simon Hamer

How a blog and a LinkedIn profile add up to a new job

Interesting concept for creating visibility and securing a brand, suggest a WordPress blog if you decide to give this a try.

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Are you out job hunting, or just wondering if you should be? Here are a few steps that can help you if you want either social media, writing, blogging, or content in any form to be part of your job:

First, start blogging

Nearly 11 months ago I started this blog with the main aim to start writing because all I’d done was keep a diary about our son for over two years. By that time, I was ready to look for a new challenge.

After writing a couple of posts I started sharing them on Twitter. Then I went a bit crazy and got accounts for nearly everything I could hook up to my blog so I could automate sharing in different places. Blogging and writing are popular with my fellow bloggers on WordPress.com, but the best results in terms of sharing and replies to my ‘business’ posts have been on Twitter and…

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