A – Z of Happiness from the ramblings of a happy man – D

D – Decisions

It is a sad thing to say that many people make decisions without much thought of the real long-term ramifications on their OWN life.

I’m not saying I always make the correct decisions, but at least I put all decisions through a filter before I act, so that I at least minimise the risks linked with a bad decision being made in haste. Or to put it another way, I still make many appalling decisions, but they no longer create a major problem in my life.

So what is the filter process, (I pretend to hear you asking) here’s a starter, you can add as many as you wish to the list to create a great thought process for delivering better decisions continually into your life.

  1. How will this affect my wife? Will she happy with the results of me making this decision, and do I need to consult with her first before I decide?
  2. How will this decision affect my health?
  3. How will this decision affect my time commitments?
  4. Will this decision make me happier, or just better off, is the trade-off, worth it?
  5. Any effect on friends, family, work colleagues or other important people in my life?

You can add many more you feel relevant, like costs, debt, who you are associating with, and the effects on you of being associated with you.

Much of this is down to a personal view on your life. My life is based upon relationships, money comes a distant second, but I understand its value better than most who squander it on many things they barely want, yet alone need.

Example :-

I’ve just decided to help out LinkedIn again after being specifically asked by one of their staff. It means committing time regularly to assist others in getting their issues resolved on the LinkedIn Help Forum, I’m doing it for free, but doing it in the past has meant I met a load of friends that I still treasure.

So I hope that by reading this you formalize your decision-making process a little bit, and that it brings you the happiness that I’ve been the recipient of, for decades..

 

Are we guilty of fixed ideology?

Politics, religion, society, foreigners, colour, creed, county, race, gender, size and I’m sure you could add countless more, do we have to have a fixed view on our fellow man?

A couple of things to challenge your thoughts patterns.

I believe in God – but not religion.

I believe in being a miser – but I am a philanthropist.

What makes you challenge traditional media led thought patterns ?

Feel free to chip in.