A – Z of Happiness from the ramblings of a happy man – D

D – Decisions

It is a sad thing to say that many people make decisions without much thought of the real long-term ramifications on their OWN life.

I’m not saying I always make the correct decisions, but at least I put all decisions through a filter before I act, so that I at least minimise the risks linked with a bad decision being made in haste. Or to put it another way, I still make many appalling decisions, but they no longer create a major problem in my life.

So what is the filter process, (I pretend to hear you asking) here’s a starter, you can add as many as you wish to the list to create a great thought process for delivering better decisions continually into your life.

1. How will this affect my wife? Will she happy with the results of me making this decision, and do I need to consult with her first before I decide?
2. How will this decision affect my health?
3. How will this decision affect my time commitments?
4. Will this decision make me happier, or just better off, is the trade-off, worth it?
5. Any effect on friends, family, work colleagues or other important people in my life?

You can add many more you feel relevant, like costs, debt, who you are associating with, and the effects on you of being associated with you.

Much of this is down to a personal view on your life. My life is based upon relationships, money comes a distant second, but I understand its value better than most who squander it on many things they barely want, yet alone need.

Example :-

I’ve just decided to help out LinkedIn again after being specifically asked by one of their staff. It means committing time regularly to assist others in getting their issues resolved on the LinkedIn Help Forum, I’m doing it for free, but doing it in the past has meant I met a load of friends that I still treasure.

So I hope that by reading this you formalize your decision-making process a little bit, and that it brings you the happiness that I’ve been the recipient of, for decades..

 

A – Z happiness from the ramblings of a happy man – C

C – Clarity

Knowledge of yourself.

Be sure – be sure you want what you wish for, be aware life will throw changes you desire in your life. Changes in your focus – changes in your wants, needs, and desires.

You may be fooled to think you need more than you do, but want you want is not what you NEED. Need is about your soul, what does your sole desire?

Love, freedom, happiness and peace of mind is what after thorough inspection and retrospection I really desired.

Where are you headed now?
Are you really chasing your real happiness, or just a corporate recorded dream ?
Are you following the pack, are you truly following the path that is YOUR path?

Success is happiness – if you are not happy – are you really suiccessful ?

Ask yourself some searching questions.

Try it.

From today ! Be yourself, it is fun.

Good luck, as ever, Simon Hamer #happiness #happy

Happiness A – Z from the mind ramblings of a happy man

A – Acceptance

Life is a wonderful gift, that is not always fully appreciated by those of us who are lucky enough to reside in a civilised country. Life still throws us challenges, but it is quite usual to allow these challenges to stop or reduce our feelings of happiness.

Acceptance of your life as it is, without the craving for more, less or change is the bedrock of the permanent state of happiness.

I’m saying that the more we can accept ot our present life as normal, the easier it is to feel happy. I understand that accepting problems, difficulties and stress in our lives is not simple, it is a task that requires mastery through daily efforts in the way we think about our lives. Hopefully, the B – Z will help you through mastering this process.

Enough for today, I’ll post B a little later this week.

Good luck, here’s to your future increased happiness.